I married 25yrs ago to an interesting woman who at that time I didn't know or had even heard of aspergers syndrom. We met on strange terms and married quickly due to our specail circumstances that in hind sight was maybe meant to be for both of us. 25 yrs. wow, She was and is a very successful nurse. Her success drove me to achieve my own successes in education. Over the first few months I knew something wasn't right but I was determined to understand what the issues were all about. Affection was all wrong! At 1st I blamed myself, tried so hard to get things right. I just didn't understand. She was and is very. Good at the things she does such as house care, cooking (the same meals over and over). She watched the same refunds of the same movies over and over. While getting my education some of my studies began to relate to my at home situation. Then we confronted an issue that came up that would have destroyed the marriage. Our resolved was marriage counseling. There the counselor confirmed my suspicions. Aspergers that was such a thugs weight to be lifted off me at that time. Time frame" at about 8 yrs into the marriage. The longer I have stayed in this, the more I pay attention, the better I can not push buttons that she reacts poorly too. Re: loud noises (such as yelling during disagreements, or having her help in my shop when I am using power tools), abrupt changes in schedules, or interfering with her pet likes (sewing,reading, aforementioned tv shows) etc. I could go on and on, it's 25 yrs of learning how to live with aspegers (my fortunate gain). Most specialist gave me no chance of success but here I am still in this marriage. Compromise is my life. Without it this would have failed a long time ago. You have the shortes version of this story. We never had children together but we raised 3 teens together. She was a great attentive mother.
K johnKenai, AK